Dating After 40 And After Getting Divorced: Six Rules For 2017

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Dating in 2017 is nothing like dating in 1997 or even 2012. Although couples still occasionally meet through mutual friends or at the bar, online and smartphone-based interactions are increasingly the norm. If you intend to get back into the dating scene, follow these six essential rules:

1. Do Not Write Off Online Dating

Gen Xers and Baby Boomers may still think of online dating as strange, but as Millennials have discovered (and others are learning), it is by far the easiest way to meet people today. From Tinder to Match, there are sites and apps for every personality type. Give it a try before returning to the tried and tested methods from decades ago.

2. Get a Friend to Look Over Your Profile

You’ve decided to take the plunge, but if you’re an online dating newbie, you might not know what works well and what looks creepy to others. Avoid shirtless selfies and the “MySpace angle” at all costs. Have a friend review your profile to ensure it presents you in the best light.

3. Be Honest About Your Divorce

People you date will be curious about your relationship history. Divorce is surprisingly common among those over a certain age, so there’s no need for shame. Address the situation honestly without blaming your ex.

4. Be Honest About Your Kids

In your 20s, some people may have been reluctant to date single parents, but after 40, it’s much more common. Let your dates know about your kids and that they are your priority, but also reassure potential significant others that there’s room in your life for love.

5. Take It Slow

Divorce is tough, and while it can be exciting to know others find you appealing, dating can stir up unexpected emotions. If you don’t feel ready to face those emotions, take it slow.

6. Be Careful on Social Media

Social media can be tricky when you’re in a new relationship. It’s often best to keep your status quiet until you feel confident. If you and your ex have mutual friends on Facebook (especially former in-laws), avoid flaunting your new relationship or comparing your ex to your new partner.

Conclusion

A favorable divorce outcome will leave you free to focus on the modern dating scene, so be sure to seek high-quality legal representation from Maryland’s DiPietro Family Law.