At some point during your divorce, you and your attorney will likely engage in negotiations with your soon-to-be ex-spouse and their attorney. While divorce can be contentious and emotional, it’s essential that your negotiations go as smoothly as possible. Here are some tips to help ensure a successful negotiation:
Be Prepared
Preparation is key to a successful divorce negotiation. Before coming to the negotiation table, you need to fully understand the facts and circumstances of your case. For example:
- Know what property is marital (shared with your spouse) and what is separate (just yours).
- Understand whether pensions are involved, and which portions are marital.
- Determine the value of the pension and payout options.
When working with your family law attorney, be honest and forthright about your situation, even if some facts seem negative. Your attorney needs all the information to avoid surprises that could disrupt negotiations. They may also be able to minimize or neutralize any negative facts.
Additionally, come to the table with a comprehensive list of all the issues. You don’t want to realize later that you left something out. Discuss everything with your attorney beforehand, and if necessary, keep a checklist to ensure nothing is missed. Remember, anything you disclose to your attorney is legally confidential.
Avoid Being Emotional
Divorce often stirs up difficult emotions, and when you’re in the same room as your soon-to-be ex, negotiations can become heated. Letting emotions control the conversation can lead to bad decisions and ineffective negotiations. Try to leave your emotions at the door and let your attorney handle most of the talking.
If needed, consider speaking with a psychologist or mental health professional before negotiations. They can provide strategies to help you stay calm during the process.
Know All the Scenarios
Before negotiating, have a clear understanding of the worst and best-case scenarios. Ask your attorney to explain the legal consequences of litigating your divorce if you and your spouse do not reach an agreement. With this knowledge, you may be more (or less) willing to compromise and reach a settlement rather than taking your case to court.
Need Legal Guidance?
At DiPietro Family Law Group, our divorce attorneys have decades of experience representing individuals through the divorce process. We are skilled negotiators and will work hard to reach the most favorable settlement for you. Call us today for a consultation at (888) 530-4374 or contact us online.