Navigating a divorce isn't easy for anyone. But when you're divorcing a narcissist, you may find the process especially challenging.
Here are our tips to help you navigate a divorce with a spouse who exhibits narcissistic behavior.
Avoid Showing Emotions
Narcissistic spouses love getting a rise out of their partners. Evoking an emotional response in you is just one of the many ways your narcissistic spouse may try to manipulate you. As such, any time you show an emotional response to their actions, they'll feel more empowered to continue their behavior.
While controlling your emotions isn't always easy, you should work to keep your surface emotions at bay. If you refuse to show these emotions, your spouse will no longer have that power over you.
Limit Communications As Much As Possible
One of the only ways a narcissistic person can manipulate you is through their words. If they can't communicate with you, they won't be able to achieve their goal of exerting their power over you.
We often recommend that our divorce clients limit communications with their spouses during the divorce proceedings. This tip is essential for those divorcing a narcissist.
Instead of communicating with your spouse directly, you can ask your divorce lawyer to communicate with them on your behalf. If you have no other options, we recommend emailing or text messaging your spouse instead of talking to them face to face.
Gather As Much Evidence As Possible
Your spouse will likely work hard to take as much of the divorce settlement from you as possible. As such, they may hide money from your joint accounts, spend your shared money without your consent, and lie to the judge.
To combat these unethical tactics, you will need to show proof of your assets, expenses, bills, and other financial records. You can never have too much evidence in a divorce case, but not having enough could cause your spouse to win a higher settlement than they deserve.
Be Prepared for a Divorce Trial
You and your spouse likely won't be able to settle out of court. While you may be tempted to try mediation, we don't recommend this for couples with a history of manipulation or emotional abuse.
Instead, you should be prepared to enter a divorce trial.
Work With an Experienced Divorce Attorney
As much as you may try to maintain a level head during your divorce, your spouse is probably pretty good at getting under your skin. Having an unbiased, skilled attorney on your side can be highly beneficial as you work to not give in to your spouse's demands.
Your attorney can help you approach your case logically, fight for your rights, and provide advice and guidance. For example, you may be conditioned to think your spouse is being fair about something, but your attorney can help you see through their act.
Contact Our Virginia Divorce Attorneys Today
You shouldn't try divorcing a narcissist alone. If you want to achieve the best outcomes, having an attorney on your side is essential.
Contact our attorneys at DiPietro Law Group today at 888-530-4374 to schedule your consultation.