our children are worried. Maybe they’re stressed because you and your ex-spouse are fighting, competing with each other, or forcing them to take sides. It is very common for children of divorced parents to suffer an array of adverse psychological and emotional reactions when their parents disagree about parenting issues and openly confront one another.
The Impact of Stress on Children
The question is: Can you do better? And if so, how?
Stress can have hidden health consequences, both psychologically and emotionally. Unfortunately, children often have a harder time than adults when it comes to managing stress. A stressed child may exhibit symptoms like decreased appetite, trouble sleeping, and physical pain with no apparent cause. When stress becomes overwhelming, children may be at a higher risk for developing mental health issues such as chronic anxiety and depression, which can persist into adulthood.
3 Useful Tips for Mindful Co-Parenting
Protecting your child from the stress of your separation may seem like a daunting task, especially given everything else on your plate. Fortunately, these three simple steps can help make things easier:
1. Be Polite
It may be frustrating or infuriating to speak with your ex-spouse, particularly during a difficult divorce. However, when you’re having conversations in front of your children, always strive to be civil—regardless of the other person’s behavior. If your ex insists on arguing, suggest continuing the conversation at another time when they can discuss things calmly. Or at least move the conversation away from where your children are present.
2. Avoid Secrets and “Behind the Back” Communication
Be honest and open. Asking your child to keep secrets from their other parent can place an enormous amount of stress on them. If you need someone to confide in, talk to a friend, another family member, or a therapist—not your child.
3. Minimize Packing Stress
Traveling back and forth between two homes can be stressful for children. To lessen that burden, try keeping essential items like toothbrushes, blankets, and pajamas at both homes. This will reduce the stress and inconvenience of forgetting important items during transitions.
Co-parenting can be challenging, but with some thought and care, you can strengthen your relationship with your children and ease tension with the other parent. Small actions can have a big impact on reducing stress for everyone involved.
If you need assistance with your case, contact our experienced Fairfax divorce attorneys today at (888) 530-4374 to schedule a consultation. We offer compassionate, strategic support to help you navigate the process and regain peace of mind.